When women call each other sluts, we become implicit in this idea that there is something wrong with a woman who expresses her sexuality — and there isn’t! Just like choosing not to express ones sexuality is also okay. We call each other sluts, and we imply that we’re okay with people seeing us and treating us as sexual objects. We let men continue their misogynist behavior, because we’re doing it, too. By calling each other sluts we let society continue to define our worth by whether or not we conform to the invisible standards of what is or is not too much sex, or what is or isn’t an appropriate expression of sexuality.
So let me tell you something, world. I am not a slut, and not because of what I wear or whether or not I have sex. I’m not a slut because I refuse to be “punished” by society for failing to behave the way you want me to. I am not a slut because men and women should be held by the same standards, especially when it comes to sex. What I am is a person and a woman. My defining quality is not how I dress or behave sexually. It is my mind and how I use it; even if I use it to decide to sleep with someone."